Dating & Marriage
The world is changing and it is not surprising that perspectives on marriage are changing as well. Attitudes on marriage are different from country to country and from generation to generation. If you follow statistics the average age for getting married is older now than it was a generation ago. Over 30 percent of Americans who will get married will not do so till the age of 35. Why, because for them careers and other activities have become more important, marriage will come when it is an appropriate time. Marriage is no longer considered sacred or permanent. Cohabitating apart from marriage, entering marriages casually, and divorcing freely are accepted without questions of hesitation. In the minds of single people selecting a mate and committing to live with someone “till death do you part” has been replaced with self-centered thinking that sees marriage as little or more than a convenient living arrangement that always can be terminated when there is no more love.
Selecting A Marriage Partner
Do We Have Biblical Guidelines For Choosing A Mate...
Perhaps, there really is only one: believers are to marry only other believers. The Christians should not marry a non-Christian (2 Corinthians 6:14-16), this was Paul’s warning to the Corinthians in this second letter. Another warning from Paul was also given to unmarried women (1 Corinthians 7:39).
It is difficult to find biblical support for the idea that in all the universe, God has only one person for each of us, that the identity of this person will be revealed in time, and that life will be miserable if you marry someone else. Clearly 1 Corinthians 7 teaches that marriage and singleness are both acceptable to God, and the choice of a mate is governed only by the requirement that Christians must marry Christians. Beyond that, it would appear that a Christian is free to choose a marriage partner based on his or her own careful thinking and the thoughtful input of sensitive understanding people that can give them spiritual guidance.
Bible And Selecting A Mate
There are many passages you can find in the Bible about marriage. God established marriage (Genesis 2:24) and Jesus and Paul reaffirmed it in (Matthew 19:3-12, I Corinthians 7). In biblical times choosing a mate was not a responsibility for the couple as it is for many people today. For example, the wife of Isaac, Abraham sent a servant on a long journey to find a suitable candidate for Isaac (Genesis 24:1-4). Jacob was away from his parents when he fell in love with Rachel his wife to be but instead of consulting her he went directly to her father (Genesis 29). Both Isaac and Jacob married later in life, but apparently many people in biblical times married young – sometimes as early as age twelve and thirteen. The parents usually made the decision, just as they still do in parts of the world today, but the young person can make his or her wishes known and sometimes even refuse the parent’s choice. After marriage was arranged they went through a period of betrothal or engagement followed by a ceremony of marriage, unlike Mary and Joseph who were in their engagement stage when Mary became pregnant. (Matthew 1:18-21).